A week away from life made me realize what my daily life is. It’s only when you are away do you appreciate what it is you take for granted about your daily life. The brown in me, realized I spend a lot of time on the phone talking to a variety of people globally and I really like the interaction.
My first day back was dealing with problems and people who hadn’t talked to me in a week. Even thou a lot of my conversations this morning were about problems, I realized I like talking to all these people. Each conversation was rewarding. When you are finished you feel satisfied. The updates felt like getting to the next episode of your favorite TV show. We spend so much time on our electronics and mobile phones we seem to have forgotten our phones are phones. Reading, surfing the internet, or texting is not the same. A conversation cannot be appreciated thru texts. Texting is void of nuances and emojis are making it even more impersonal. The nature of my absence made me talk to a few people this week who I hadn’t talked to in a while. I found myself arguing, yelling and laughing on calls. I found the actual conversation more satisfying because the sound of a voice, the emotions and nuances are enhanced in voice conversations. There is a better understanding of the issue with voice.
I have noticed more and more businesses are going to chat, which I think maybe faster and convenient but not as satisfying. That which makes us human does not come across in typing. In my situation I was able to better resolve the issues by talking. I was better able to have a human interaction with each person. I talked to at least 15 people today from all over the world and I am willing to bet each one of them felt better after we hung up.
Small talk is what the texting eliminates. Voice always leads to some trivial exchanges which are very important because they provide emotion. The tone of a voice can give you a better insight. A person getting excited, or loud, or quiet are great benefit to gauge their emotion. Also on voice you cannot go without thank yous, goodbyes, and asking about their lives and family. Every call I had started with how are you? A text just gets to the point. A question on the phone doesn’t usually get answered by one word or an emoji. We need to increase. what they use to call water cooler conversations. The constant texting leads to too much information. We are too connected, so that when we meet there isn’t anything new to say. The absence makes the heart grow fonder. The absence of constant texting helps us have better conversation. If thru my social media and texting you know everything I have been up to, whats the point of us engaging?
The brown in me use to claim I hate small talk, but what this is week has shown me is I actually engage in a lot of small talk and its the small talk which is the key to my relationships. Small talk is HUGE! So how are you doing?
Source: ItsTheBrownInMe
